My heart is heavy right now.
I woke up Friday morning to 6 different text messages. It was 6 AM so I knew something was up. Once my eyes adjusted to the light of my Iphone I was able to read text messages from my sister and friends, texts like
"Wow how close are you to Aurora?"
"Aurora, isn't that where Jasper goes to preschool?"
"Isn't that the movie theater we have gone to?"
I was confused. But a quick google search just typing in Aurora brought me the news of the theater shooting.
I literally jumped out of bed and turned on the TV, and on it stayed all day.
I'm sure this is tragic and traumatizing for the whole country. But being this close to such a shocking, tragic event is absolutely devastating. It's consumed probably 90% of my thoughts in the past 30+ hrs.
We live in Denver. But Jasper goes to preschool in Aurora. Just 2 miles or so from where this tragedy took place.
As soon as I heard that there was a 3 month old involved I couldn't stop thinking about a mom at J's school that has a preschool age son but also a 3 month old daughter. They live next to the school so this movie theater is the closest on to their house. I knew it was unlikely that it was them- but I didn't know for sure. (I do now)
I hold my breath every time I see a knew victim has been identified. Praying hard that it won't be a name I recognize. That it won't be Jasper's preschool teachers, or the wonderful people from the church there, or anyone from the vacation bible school he attended there a few weeks.
The sadness I feel for the victim's families and friends is indescribable. And the sadness for our state, who has gone through a lot this summer. And here's the unpopular opinion of the day, I feel so much sadness for the shooters family. Unless it comes out they somehow knew about this before hand, or helped him in some way to become this evil, to commit such an evil crime, than I feel such sadness for them. Can you imagine finding something like this out about your son? Or your brother? Or Nephew? To have to live with the fact that your family did something like this would be completely unbearable. Please don't hate me for feeling like that.
One more thing that's causing me so much sadness about this tragic event, hearing the judgemental comments about the victims! I saw numerous tweets and facebook comments questioning and judging the parents that had children in the movie theater. A 6 year old life was lost, not because the parents chose to take their child to the movies but because a man brought guns in and started shooting. To focus on the why a child was there is so disturbing to me. Who cares why a child was there? It was a movie, not a topless bar (the first place I could think of that should never have children there.) And the horrible comments I saw regarding a baby at the movies? Again WHO CARES. I have taken Tindra to a movie. She slept and nursed the entire time. Yes it was a family friendly movie (madagascar) but I don't think that matters. The point is the parents chose to take their children to the movies. The end. No one should judge them for that and express horrible comments about it. Focusing on the WRONG thing people!
Okay end rant.